We live in modern times and supposedly men are able to accept women as equals, at least in some respects. But is that true? Of course it isn't. Men still think of women as a danger to themselves.
Recently, I was reading a Dick Francis novel that I had previously overlooked (To the Hilt) and came across this passage: "Margaret had come in flowery printed wool, soft and rose-red and disarming, hiding the steel-hard brain. How ridiculous, I thought, that the male mind could often accept a female as equal only if she pretended to be in need of help." (To the Hilt, Putnam, 1996, pg. 286.) That passage, written by Dick Francis in 1996, immediately reminded me of something Hedy Lamarr said. "Any girl can be glamorous: all you have to do is stand still and look stupid." (The Cynic's Lexicon, St. Martin's Press, 1984, pg. 114.)
And still today men are more interested in women looking glamorous than in being the fully rounded and intelligent people that they are.
Hedy Lamarr was an absolutely beautiful early film star and inventor. Dick Francis was a steeplechase jockey and a wonderful mystery novel writer. They both knew that many, if not most men were really afraid of women and are intimidated by smart women, even in our modern society, although few will admit it.
Men truly do have fragile egos. A man puts much of his ego in his sexual prowess. This is only natural given our ancient evolutionary beginnings. (Then it was being a successful hunter. Today it is being a successful wage or salary earner.) But a women can "deflate" a man's ego and sexual prowess with a simple laugh. If she does so, however, she risks physical violence visited upon her by the man. She can also out perform any given man sexually if she chooses to do so. But, again, she needs to be careful.
Ergo, women are a threat to men's egos and sexual prowess and so men must try to trivialize them to protect themselves. It may take a few more centuries, or millennia (if we last that long) before equality of the sexes—that is, accepting a person for his or her abilities without regard to their gender—actually comes about, if it ever does.
Personally, I like women for the fact that they are women; for the wonderful beings they are. I don't want them to think or act like men. If I did... well then, I might as well be homosexual. I'm not homosexual but I accept those who are as valid human beings just as I accept women as valid human beings.
I love women because they are women and not men; for how they think and act and react—differently than men. And yes, I love them for their sexuality also. I am, after all, a heterosexual male and I'm not dead yet.